Treasure: Fifteen Principles Of Communication

First,

In particular, speak frankly about feelings, feelings, pain, thoughts and expectations in your heart, but not criticism, blame, complaint, and attack.

Two, no criticism, no blame, no complaints, no attack, no preaching.

Criticism, reproach, complaint and attack are all executioners of communication, which only aggravate things.

Three, mutual

Only if you respect each other, then you can communicate. If the other person does not respect you, you should also ask for respect from others, otherwise it will be difficult to communicate.

Four, never say anything bad.

Bad words hurt people.

Five, do not say what should not be said.

If we say something we should not say, we often have to pay a heavy price to make up for it. That is what is called "one word is out, hard to catch up", "illness comes in from mouth, evil comes out of the mouth", and may even cause irremediable lifelong regret. So communication can not be free from speech and mouth, but without speaking at all, sometimes it will become worse.

Six, do not communicate in mood, especially can not make decisions.

Communication in emotion is often unpleasant, unclear and unexplained, especially in emotion. It is easy to be impulsive and irrational, such as quarrelling unmarried couples, parents who hate their enemies, and their subordinates who have long held up their superiors. Especially, they can not make emotional and impulsive decisions in their emotions. This is very easy to make things irreversible and repent.

Seven, rational communication, irrational, do not communicate.

The only reason for this is that there is no result and no better result. Therefore, this communication is useless.

Eight, awareness

It is not just communication that requires awareness, everything is needed.

If you say something wrong and do something wrong, if you do not want to cause irreparable harm, what is the best way?! "I am wrong", this is a kind of awareness.

Nine, admit that I was wrong.

The problem of thawing, improving and pforming communication is just one sentence: I am wrong! How many people have done away with the old and new hatred and how many years of unresolved deadlock? How many years can we get rid of the deadlock, let people suddenly see the light, lay down their weapons, face themselves again, and begin to rethink life, or even who I am? In this vast flood of the universe, what people care most is "I". If someone does not respect me, suppress me or bully me or insult me, even if he is like a father or son, he may turn his back on his own eyes. To admit that I was wrong is the disinfectant of communication.

Ten, say sorry!

To say sorry does not mean that I have done anything big or wrong, but a softener, so that there is room for "turning around", and even can create "paradise".

In fact, sometimes you are really wrong. It's a big mistake to admit it.

Eleven, let the miracle happen.

Now that they are willing to admit each other's mistakes, they are creating heaven and miracles for themselves and their families.

Twelve, love

Everything is love, love is the greatest healer.

Thirteen. Wait for a turn.

If there is no turning point, we will have to wait for it. We will only be able to overcome it. Of course, we do not want to wait until the result is lost from the rest of the world. We still have to work hard for you, but efforts will not necessarily produce results or end up with the end, but if you do not work hard, you will have nothing.

Fourteen, patience

The only thing waiting is patience, where there is a will, there is a way.

Fifteen. Intelligence

Intelligence makes people unclinging and bliss.